Updating Yourself
When did you last update your system?
How often do you ask yourself this short nd powerful questions:
Who am I today?
What is my truth?
What still bothers you, and what has long ago faded?
What spaces have opened in your system — and where do you still hold on to old patterns, because the “should” is so deeply branded in your heart?
Updating yourself.
You know about *neuroplasticity. It’s everywhere. The brain changes. It’s not just emotional. It’s physical.
Let’s speak of results — of lasting change.
How do you notice change in you?
When do we recognise that something isn’t true anymore?
What are your pointers?
Self-update is a word I once heard from *Carl Rogers — and I love it.
Who am I today?
Ways to Update Yourself
Wonder. Visit the same place, same situation. And turn around.
Be curious. Look back but stay in the present.
What I find helpful?
Experience yourself in conversations you haven’t had before. New people, new questions.
Allow yourself to be critical and radical. What is really true? Chaos is everywhere - outside, you seem to be able to change from a big buffet what could be true. So really, what do you not believe? Truly? Even if the outside world insists you should.
Who are you, today?
I just came back from a long conversation — a three-hour walk up the hill. With a new person.
Questions. Out of breath. Pauses. Disruptions. New thoughts.
What comes through me when I allow the answer to emerge — not from deep processing, but from a space where I simply describe myself, define myself.
Where I hold trauma as awareness, but don’t let the past become the present?
Often, we notice change only when we look back — when we realize for example:
Ah. That’s how I measured success before. Now I do it differently.
Grief.
Of course.
Change brings grief — for what the old did, and what it didn’t.
Grief for leaving the old behind.
For the years we missed, the journeys we made, the people we said goodbye to.
This is strong.
And it sparked an idea in me.
Join me for a sweet experiment.
I’ll send you a voice message from my morning walk to the old oak tree.
I invite you to:
UNBELIEVING - A Gathering of the Stories we Release.
Notes & Inspirations
Carl Rogers
Carl Rogers (1902–1987) was a pioneering psychologist and one of the founders of humanistic psychology. He believed in the innate wisdom and self-healing capacity of every person — that real growth comes through authenticity, empathy, and unconditional positive regard. His idea of the “self-updating organism” reflects the belief that we are constantly evolving, if only we allow ourselves to.
Neuroplasticity
Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to reorganize and form new neural connections throughout life. It’s how experience, learning, and even thought patterns reshape us — not just emotionally, but physically, in the wiring of our brains. It means change is never only conceptual; it’s embodied, real, and always possible.
About UNBELIEVING
UNBELIEVING is a Free Whatsapp Group - a gentle gathering — a shared space for grief, clarity, and quiet celebration.
It’s a moment to pause and look at what we’ve believed, what has shaped us, and what we’re ready to release.
Together we explore the soft art of letting go: of old truths, inherited expectations, and the stories that no longer fit.
Sometimes I record a voice message from my morning walk to the old oak tree and share it as part of the experience — a simple ritual of listening, breathing, and remembering that unlearning is also growth.
